The Charleston County Public Library's 16 branches will be closed on Thursday, November 26 and Friday, November 27 in observance of the Thanksgiving holidays. Libraries will close at 6 p.m. on Wednesday, November 25 and reopen Saturday, November 28 with regular weekend service hours.
Book drops will be unavailable from 5 p.m. on Wednesday, November 25 until 9 a.m. on Friday, November 27 to allow staff to spend the holiday with family. Please do not leave items outside the book drop. Items not returned in the book drop are the responsibility of the patron.
Monday, November 16, 2009
December Computer Classes--They're FREE!
Take a break from holiday shopping and come to the library for a computer class! All computer classes are free and are for adults and young adults. For more information please call 559-1945 and ask for the Reference Department. Class space is available for 8 participants per session and registration is required.
Computer Basics
Tuesday, December 1 from 10 a.m. – 12 p.m.
Registration starts 11/17
This class provides a basic introduction to the personal computer and its parts. Learn how to use the mouse and navigate the computer screen. There is time for hands-on practice. No computer experience is necessary.
Internet Basics
Tuesday, December 15 from 10 a.m. – 12 p.m.
Registration starts 12/1
An introduction to the Internet, focusing on the World Wide Web, using Internet Explorer. Provides an overview of how the Internet is structured and introduces searching on the World Wide Web. Prerequisite: Some experience using a mouse will be helpful.
Keyboard Basics
Tuesday, December 8 from 10 a.m. – 12 p.m.
Registration starts 11/24
Basic orientation to using the computer keyboard. Learn to be a more efficient keyboarder. General instruction and hands-on practice. No computer experience is necessary.
Computer Basics
Tuesday, December 1 from 10 a.m. – 12 p.m.
Registration starts 11/17
This class provides a basic introduction to the personal computer and its parts. Learn how to use the mouse and navigate the computer screen. There is time for hands-on practice. No computer experience is necessary.
Internet Basics
Tuesday, December 15 from 10 a.m. – 12 p.m.
Registration starts 12/1
An introduction to the Internet, focusing on the World Wide Web, using Internet Explorer. Provides an overview of how the Internet is structured and introduces searching on the World Wide Web. Prerequisite: Some experience using a mouse will be helpful.
Keyboard Basics
Tuesday, December 8 from 10 a.m. – 12 p.m.
Registration starts 11/24
Basic orientation to using the computer keyboard. Learn to be a more efficient keyboarder. General instruction and hands-on practice. No computer experience is necessary.
Jennifer Vido Interview Author Kevin Michael Connolly
Jen’s Jewels
November 10, 2009
November 10, 2009
Kevin Michael Connolly
Life is about choices. Whether it’s something as simple as what to make for dinner or as complex as which type of chemotherapy will work best, we all have decisions to make as well as adversities to overcome. How we choose to face them determines which path in life we take. Every road has its bumps. The trick is knowing how to successfully navigate around them.
This month’s Jen’s Jewels Kevin Michael Connolly knows all too well that life is not fair. Born without two legs, he has learned in his brief twenty-four years how to turn his unfortunate circumstances into a life lesson we all can benefit from experiencing. In his poignant memoir DOUBLE TAKE, he shares with us his inspiring journey. Truly, his story is unforgettable.
As part of this interview, Harper Studio has generously donated five copies for you, my lucky readers, to win. So, don’t forget to look for the trivia question at the end. And as always, thanks for making Jen’s Jewels a part of your reading adventure.
Jen: At the age of twenty-three you penned a memoir that from start to finish defies imagination and reads much wiser than your years would suggest. Your life story to date is truly remarkable. Let’s start by talking about the unique circumstances that compelled you to tell your story publicly.
Kevin: Thanks for the opportunity to do the interview. You certainly kicked it off with a big question! I really felt compelled to write this book for a couple of reasons. I’d completed the photo series discussed in the book about a year before I began pitching my idea to publishers. The reason why I wanted to write a memoir over a more traditional, coffee-table like approach was simply because I’d get more of a voice. As far as I’d known, I’d never heard of anyone at 23 who had traveled around the world on a skateboard without legs taking photos of being stared at. The more I started to think about that accomplishment, the more I realized the importance of discussing where that strength came from.
If you want me to be totally honest, writing the book was hard as hell. Trying to be emotionally honest as an athletic 23 year-old Montanan was difficult enough, but putting all of those emotions to a page you knew would someday be read was really scary. I feel like I’ve grown up a lot just by virtue of surviving the writing process. That said, I’m so glad that I did it.
Jen: At the beginning of the book, you mention briefly how your sister Meagan fought a “silent” battle as defender of her disabled brother. In your childhood days, how did your lack of legs positively affect your relationship with both your sisters?
Kevin: I think that if anything, my lack of legs possibly solidified the familial bond. Not just between my sisters, either, but the whole family. I think that in some ways, that bond was created through dealing with all of the unwanted challenges and attention together. Maybe it’s a little like the bond I hear of between men and women in the military. Once you’ve seen and been through some nasty stuff together, that bond of friendship (or family) is strengthened.
Jen: At any point did you feel a sense of guilt knowing that your disability greatly affected your family unit as a whole? And if so, how did you overcome that guilt?
Kevin: I think that one of the smartest things that my parents did was to not let my disability greatly affect the family as a whole. I still got on the bus and went to school with my sisters. Still had the same amount of homework. Still got yelled at when I whined or shirked responsibility. I think that those very ordinary demands kept me from getting all wrapped up in guilt during my younger years.
However, I would say that at a couple of points I’ve felt guilty about the impact my not-having-legs has had on my family. Most summers in Montana are spent hiking or camping, and I remember feeling bad about not being able to keep up on some of the more strenuous hiking trips. I’m damn strong, but my stride is short and a pack is more difficult to carry when you’re only using your arms to ambulate. All of those things added up to me usually being the last in the line of people on a hike. That said, as I’ve gotten older and spoken more openly with them about it, that guilt has really dissipated. Now I sound a lot like my Dad on hiking trips. “Screw ‘em, they can wait!”
Jen: Despite your limitations, you were able to find a physical outlet that allowed your innate yearning for competition to surface. I chuckled as I read your description of the dirt bags, the men on the slopes. Please share with us your introduction to skiing and how it enabled you to find your voice within.
Kevin: I was introduced to skiing at the age of ten, and my first day was spent up at Bridger Bowl in Bozeman, MT. I think my most vivid memory of that first day (and maybe my skiing experience as a whole) was of the car ride. Helena is almost two hours west of Bridger Bowl, and I remember grudgingly eating my cereal at five-thirty during that first morning while Dad ran around the house trying to scrounge up old hunting clothes and anything that would keep us warm on the hill. Most ski days, we left Helena before the sun came up, and got back well after it’d gone down. Especially during those early days of skiing when I was still trying to get in shape, I would maybe ski only four or five hours in a day. With that in mind, as much time was spent in the car as on the slopes.
Crazy road trips aside, I think that skiing really gave me a physical outlet in which to both vent and express myself. It got me in shape and gave me more confidence. In high school especially, it allowed me to create an identity for myself that extended beyond “Kevin-the-Student” or “Kevin-the-Kid-in-the-Wheelchair” and into something much more in kind with my fellow peers. “Kevin the Skier.” The book is all about identities – both those that we occupy as well as those we throw onto others – and being a skier provided a really positive, challenging identity for me.
Jen: Your relationship with your Dad in your teen years appears to be the center core of your being. In a sense, you both set out to conquer your disability from two unique angles yet ultimately united as one in its discovery. When was the defining moment in your relationship when you knew that with your skiing, you two had found a mutual respect and admiration for each other?
Kevin: I don’t know if it really happened during skiing, to be honest. Dad – while he supported my skiing with almost religious fanaticism – still stressed that my success in school was far more important than on the ski hill. So while I admired what Dad was doing for me all of those years, I don’t think that I appreciated (or fully realized) just how much he was doing for me during that time. During the writing of the book, though, I called him on more than one occasion to thank him just for putting up with a semi-ungrateful (or not grateful enough) son and some long hours on the road.
Now things are much different, of course. Pops and I definitely have the mutual respect thing going, though it stems from a more holistic, traditional place. The basic thing with my Dad is that he’ll give all of the time and money he physically can to his kids, but he expects a hell of a lot out of them in return. So I think that he’s more admiring of the fact that I’m his 24-year-old son with a college degree; a good job; a solid work ethic; and decent moral fiber.
Jen: Growing up without two legs, you know firsthand how it feels to be living as if you are always under the microscope. Rather than dwelling on the harsh reality of your circumstances, you chose to turn it into a learning experience for all of us. Please describe for us your project.
Kevin: The Rolling Exhibition involved rolling around the world on a skateboard and chronicling the reactions people had to me in all of these different countries and cultures. The bulk of the photo project was shot over the summer of 2007, between my Junior and Senior year of college. The project involved almost 33,000 photographs and really went out to prove two things: 1.) That nearly everyone - regardless of age, location, or culture - stares at the people that spark their interest or curiosity.2.) After that initial look, people sometimes create a narrative in their heads as to why that person came to be. This is where the nuance comes in, and where I would like to turn it over to an excerpt from my artist statement that's posted at http://www.therollingexhibition.com/statement.php . It says:"Whether it is a glance or a neck twisting ogle, we look at that which does not seem to fit in our day to day lives. It is that one instant of unabashed curiosity - more reflex than conscious action - that makes us who we are and has been one of my goals to capture over the past year. It is after this instant that we try to hazard a guess as to why such an anomalous person exists. Was it disease? Was it a birth defect? Was it a landmine? These narratives all come from the context in which we live our lives. Illness, drugs, calamity, war - all of these might become potential stories depending upon what we are exposed to in connection with disability."While I think that the first objective was clearly accomplished by the photo series, the second was much better articulated in the later sections of Double Take.
Jen: Your mother seems to be the constant in your life always willing to accept any decision you make as a step in the right direction. When you made the decision to travel the world, what was going on in your mind about the way this would affect her? As a mother, I can only imagine how she must have worried about your safety.
Kevin: By the time I came to her with my idea to travel, I already knew that she’d have my back. She’ll always advise us kids, but once a decision is reached, she gets behind it. So when I called her, I was kind of hoping that she’d play against type and actually try and talk me down. I knew that I was making a big commitment to the project, and that conversation was probably my last chance to back out of the whole trip. If there’s one thing Mom’s good at, though, it’s controlling her tone and emotions. She can’t play poker to save her life, but she sure is tough to read on the phone. If she sounded worried or concerned, she didn’t let on.
Jen: In order to navigate your journey, you enlisted the aid of your “custom-built” skateboard. Describe for us your mode of transportation and how you were able to use it to serve your purpose.
Kevin: My mode of transport during this journey abroad was a Sector9 longboard (basically a heavier, longer, and more stable version of a skateboard). While I did assemble the board using my own selection of parts, the reason I chose a skateboard over a wheelchair was specifically because it wasn’t truly custom built. If I shredded a wheel on glass bottle or seized up some ball bearings in a flood, I could pull a replacement out of my backpack, or find something at a skateshop if I was in a city. Those are advantages not as easily afforded to a wheelchair, and as a result, I found that traveling on a skateboard was a much more efficient (if not attention-getting) way to get around.
Jen: Throughout the book, you have peppered each anecdote with examples of your fascinating photographs. Truly, a picture says a thousand words. Which one best encapsulates your entire experience and how so?
Kevin: Boy, I don’t know if I’d be able to answer that. While I’m dearly in love with certain photographs on an aesthetic level – the Girl on the Millennium Bridge in London, or the two Romans in Split, Croatia – I don’t think that I can single one out as best encapsulating my entire experience. I think that, if anything, the photo series is meant more to explore single reaction as it appears crystallized in all these faces around the world.
When I set out to make this project, I set out to prove a fact about human nature, and so I wanted to be as deliberate as I could in terms of creating something that looked more like a data set from a scientific study than a bunch of pretty photographs. It’s why all of the photos are taken on the same lens, from the same angle, without ever once looking through the viewfinder. I was setting rules for myself. Basically creating a system of controls in which my only variable was the bipeds walking by.
So as a result, while really love my photo project, I feel like it is ultimately more a visual preface to the ideas expressed in the book rather than its own entity. We created the endpapers to the book with just that idea in mind. All of those faces on the endpapers of Double Take serve somewhat as a Cliff Notes to the photo project itself.
Jen: I read that your photographs have been on display around the world. Are they currently on exhibit? And if so, where?
Kevin: Yes they are! I have two galleries currently traveling around the continental U.S. as well as another gallery displaying in Liverpool, UK.
Jen: I was so excited when I read about your girlfriend! Every person needs to love and be loved. In what ways has your disability made you a better partner? If you don’t mind me asking, are you currently in a relationship?
Kevin: I don’t know if I can answer that fairly or responsibly. Being born without legs, I’ve never really been in someone else’s shoes, and thus can’t really speak on whether or not my not-having-legs has had any effect on my success as a partner. I would say that I’m a constantly traveling workaholic has probably more to do with my efficacy as a partner than the legs thing!
That said, I am not currently in a relationship.
Jen: One of the most moving parts in the book for me was on page 171 where you discuss the word disabled. You write, “You are only disabled if you are incapable of overcoming the challenges presented in any given situation.” What powerful words! So true! How have you been able to incorporate these words into your everyday living?
Kevin: The way I apply those words to my life is by looking at time in small chunks. I’m a big fan of “winging it” in almost any situation – whether that’s speaking in front of a crowd or trying to adapt my way out of a new situation – so viewing disability in an ephemeral light makes a lot of sense to me. Say we’re racing through an airport. I’m going to smoke you both speed and efficiency anytime we’re on flat ground in the terminal. However, you’ll be able to laugh at me later when I’m hauling my slow butt up a flight of stairs. It’s all a tradeoff. Not better, not worse, just different.
Jen: In the book you mention that you were driving with your family alongside you in the car. What specific adaptations were made in order for you to do this?
Kevin: Automotive hand controls are actually a fairly standard device that we had installed by a small business an hour outside of my hometown. It’s basically a little lever that sits underneath the blinker on the left side of the steering wheel. Pull down for gas, and push in for brake. Try not to mix the two up.
Jen: Now that your story has been put into words, what is next for you in your life’s journey?
Kevin: Another project. This one deals a bit more with tech than photos (so images are still a big component). We’re still in prototype phase, but all I can say is that I tested out one of the rigs I’ll be using on my next bout of travel and….I can jump (really high) and run (really fast).
Jen: Finally, let’s talk about your website. Please walk us through it.
Kevin: My work on the web has really been where I put most of my early efforts. The website for The Rolling Exhibition ( www.therollingexhibition.com) was built by an old high school buddy who offered to do it for super cheap. After collaborating on the design for the site, we realized that my image needed to be in some way integrated with the website in order to understand the look on each person’s face in the photos. After my appearance on ABC’s 20/20, I remember my site crashing four or five times due to the traffic load. Since then, the link has made its way around the world, and I still get hits from Iran, Russia, and Korea, to name a few.
Since the inception of that site, I’ve created another one that works somewhat as my “mothership” online. All of my photographs (including The Rolling Exhibition and extra photos from my book Double Take) are stored on the site along with my blog and book trailer. The site is called http://www.kevinmichaelconnolly.com/ and I check up on it every day. Posting a comment on my blog or sending me a line from there is definitely the best way to get a hold of me.
Jen: To thank you for stopping by would be such a trite statement. Rather, thank you for allowing my readers the chance to view the world through a beacon of hope. Your story is truly amazing. I wish you only the best in your future endeavors. I have no doubt. You will soar.
Kevin: Thanks again, Jen. I hope everyone enjoys the book!
I hope you’ve been inspired as much as I was from reading about Kevin’s miraculous journey. Please stop by your favorite bookstore, Amazon.com, or local library branch and pick up a copy of DOUBLE TAKE today.
Better yet, would you like to win one instead? Okay, be one of the first five people to send me an e-mail at jensjewels@gmail.com with the correct answer to the following trivia question.
What is Kevin’s “custom-built” mode of transportation?
On November 20th, I will be bringing to you my interview with the award-winning mystery novelist Carolyn Hart. You won’t want to miss it.
Until next time…
Jen
Jen's Bio: When a twist of fate landed Jennifer Vido at the "Reading with Ripa" roundtable discussion with Kelly Ripa and Meg Cabot, she knew that her career as a French teacher would never be the same. A graduate of Vanderbilt University, Jennifer is a member of Romance Writers of America and reviews books for the major publishing houses, such as Random House, Penguin, and Harper Collins. Currently, she is a columnist and reviewer for www.freshfiction.com, where her popular monthly column, Jen's Jewels, also appears. As a national trainer for The Arthritis Foundation's Aquatic and Land Exercise Programs, she is an advocate for those like herself who suffer from arthritis, the nation's #1 cause of disability. In addition, she serves as Vice-chairperson of the Board of Trustees of the Harford County Public Library where she resides with her husband and two sons. She may be reached at jensjewel s@gmail.com and JenniferVido.com.
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Jennifer Vido Interviews Author Fern Nichols
Fern Nichols
Jen’s Jewels
November 1, 2009
I have a secret that I must share. I have rekindled an old relationship. As the saying goes…it just happened. My discreet partner is thoughtful, understanding, and at times comforting on a cold, blustery day. When I need a moment of silence on my way to carpool, I have it. When I need a friend to lean on after a long day, I have one. Quite frankly, I never realized just how in tune I have become with my long, lost friend…God.
This month’s Jen’s Jewels Fern Nichols has experienced quite the same epiphany. As a mother, she experienced firsthand the ups and downs of raising children in the crazy world in which we live. So, she turned to a higher power to help her navigate life’s journey. In her latest release, WHEN MOMS PRAY TOGETHER: True Stories of God’s Power to Transform Your Child, she calls upon the help of faithful moms to give encouragement to others facing life’s challenges.
As part of this interview, Tyndale has generously donated five copies for you, my lucky readers, to win. So, don’t forget to look for the trivia question at the end of the column. And as always, thanks for making Jen’s Jewels a part of your reading adventure.
Jen: As the mother of four children as well as a grandmother, you have experienced firsthand the Herculean feat of raising healthy, happy children. So that my readers may have a better understanding of the path you took in becoming an author, please tell us about your educational and professional experience.
Fern:
My mother was an inspiration to me. She took seriously her role of mothering. She was able to be a stay-at-home mom and was very intentional about our physical, mental and spiritual development. She made nutritious meals, made sure we went to school, taught us the Word of God, modeled prayer and faithfully took us to church.
As a result of how she was raising me, I believe God set deep in my heart the importance of the godly influence of a mother. And that’s what I wanted to be. I had no intention of going to college or having a career. I wanted to be a MOM!! But God in His Sovereignty not only opened doors for me to go to college, but to major in the thing I loved most -- children. I earned my degree in education. Both my fiancé, Rle, and I graduated from college together, got married one month later and both taught school in the same district.
In our third year of marriage God blessed us with a baby boy, and I was able to become a stay-at-home mom. God gave me the desires of my heart. But did I ever learn a lot as a new mom! I needed the Lord more than ever. I was in the Word and on my knees seeking direction, wisdom and guidance for this new little life. I was intentional, just like my mom, and from birth began the life-long teaching of the Word, prayer and taking him to church. God blessed us with three more children and my desire to raise “Jesus Lovers” was heightened all the more.
Throughout those years of raising these precious “gifts” God gave us, I was very active in living out my faith. I wanted to serve the One I loved. I had many opportunities to do that through teaching Sunday School, being choir director, playing the organ and piano, and teaching neighborhood Bible studies. My husband and I were called to serve in Campus Crusade for Christ for 15 years. Rle was the coach for Athletes In Action. In my seasons of service, I purposed in my heart that my priorities would be God first, family second and ministry third. Truly my profession was Motherhood!
Jen: Your religious faith has been the cornerstone to the development of your career as an inspirational speaker and advocate for Christianity. What was the driving force that led you to pursue this vocation?
Fern:
There really was no driving force to be an inspirational speaker. As I desired to please the Lord and follow His will for my life, opportunities opened for me to speak at retreats, churches, seminars, workshops. My main topics were always centered on how to be a mature Christian, the blessings of motherhood and prayer.
On one fall day in 1984 as I kissed my two eldest sons goodbye before they left for school, I went back to the kitchen with a very heavy, burdened heart for them. I was truly fearful for their spiritual lives at that public school. So many things loomed in my mind of the incredible battles they would be facing. Would they make the right decisions in tempting situations, would they be able to recognize humanistic teachings, would they choose godly, moral friends? And on and on it went. As I was talking to the Lord about this, I prayed a desperate simple prayer, “Lord, there must be one other mom who will pray with me for our children and the school.” I had experienced the power of corporate prayer and it was time to unite.
The Lord laid upon my heart the name of another mom. I immediately called her and poured out my heart, the burden I felt, and asked if she would take time out of her busy schedule to come to my house and pray. She felt the same way and agreed to come. We thought of a few other moms we could invite. So, that very next week there were five of us in my living room praying a simple four step format of prayer that kept us praying the whole hour. We were serious. The lives of our children were at stake.
Out of one desperate mom’s burden for her boys, God birthed a prayer ministry for children and schools. You truly do not know what God has in mind when on one unassuming day you are in prayer.
Jen: Let’s talk about Moms in Touch International. Please describe for us its core purpose.
Fern: We named our group Moms in Touch -- moms in touch with God, with one another, with our children and the school through prayer. We knew we could not physically follow our children around at school, even though a lot of moms would love to. But, the one thing we did know was that when we prayed, Jesus would be there. We were experiencing so many answers to prayer that we couldn’t help but tell others. The grassroots movement began. Moms were calling me to come to their house to help form a group for their school. Then churches began inviting me to come share. God opened opportunities to share at retreats. The word about this life-changing ministry was spreading.
Jen: How did your vision become a reality? And, what part did Dr. James Dobson (Focus on the Family) play in helping you achieve your goal?
Fern:
God kept increasing my vision. At first it was prayer for my children and the school they attended. And then the vision increased for all the schools to be covered in my area. Then in 1985 God moved our family with Campus Crusade for Christ from British Columbia, Canada, to Poway near San Diego, California. I knew no one. One simple prayer emerged, “Lord, I need one other mom to pray with me.” By the end of the school year, there were 15 moms coming to my home to pray for the high school. In 1988 we had our first MITI retreat. Thirty-five women were at a retreat center together in a fire-side room thanking God for all the answers to prayer we had seen since praying in a MITI group. The Holy Spirit was moving sweetly among us. A prayer emerged, “Lord, we have been changed, our children and the school have been changed, and we now ask that all the schools in the San Diego area be covered in prayer.” The prayer grew even bigger. We then prayed for all of California schools to have a MITI group. Then our faith grew to ask for the whole Northwest. The Holy Spirit moved our prayers across the United States and then around the world. There was silence. Then one mom prayed, “Lord, who can tell the women of the world about Moms in Touch?” There was a pause. “Dobson, that’s who.” “Lord, we ask to be on his program.” I think we were all stunned at first by the request and then there was a joyous agreement.
Three months later, without anyone contacting FOF, LuAnne Crane from FOF called me, asking about MITI. She caught the vision, and said there were a lot of requests that crossed Dr. Dobson’s desk so she couldn’t promise anything.
Did we ever pray! We were so bold that not only did we ask to be on the program, but that God would give us two days, just in case a mom didn’t hear the first day. God answered above and beyond our request. He gave us three days. Twelve other moms joined Dr. Dobson and me in the studio. God knew this message of hope needed to be heard by moms. The result of the program was over 24,000 responses. Needless to say, the ministry has never been the same since that day. We are Moms In Touch International, and we are now in over 130 countries.
Jen: And initially, what affect did it have on your family? Did your children feel any pressure growing up having to live up to other’s high expectations in terms of their behavior? Their mother was (and still is!) a devoted Christian. We all know…kids will be kids no matter who their parents are.
Fern:
My family really didn’t know exactly all what was happening. By God’s grace, I was able to change hats from ministry to home easily. When my children were home I was able to have my focus on them and was involved in all their activities. I remember one time I took a red-eye flight to speak at a MITI retreat so that I wouldn’t miss my son’s football game. They realized the scope of the ministry for the first time when they attended the MITI 10th Anniversary Retreat. There were 750 women who came from many different states. My family was amazed and said, “Mom, I knew you prayed for us, but we didn’t realize what you were doing.” It was a real eye-opener, even for my husband.
Jen: With the creation of this powerful group came your writing of several books. Your latest release, WHEN MOMS PRAY TOGETHER, is a heart-warming collection of stories that would inspire even the non-believer to have faith. Describe for us its metamorphosis.
Fern:
I never set out to be a writer. In fact, I remember in my English class in high school that I had a lot of red marks on my papers. But again, God in His Sovereign plan for my life had an agent from Zondervan contact me to encourage me to tell my story. If it weren’t for Janet Kobobel Grant capturing my “voice” in the book Every Child Needs a Praying Mom, it would not have received the silver medallion award. She was a key piece in writing that book. Connie Kennemer was my co-writer for the gift book Prayers From a Mom’s Heart.
The new book WHEN MOMS PRAY TOGETHER was birthed because of my deep desire to glorify God for His faithfulness to MITI for 25 years. As our 25th anniversary was approaching, I wanted to display His glory through sharing answers to moms’ prayers. I was encouraged by Cheri Fuller to call Larry Weeden and share my vision for the book with him: 25 stories representing answers to prayer over 25 years. I wanted it to be a legacy book that I could give to my grandchildren one day and say, “Honey, the God who answered these prayers is the same God who will answer your prayers today.” This is not a “coffee table” book to just sit on the shelf. I wanted this book to strengthen the faith and prayer life of women all over the world. Larry caught the vision and the project began. Once again I needed the “body” to make this book have the impact that I wanted it to have. Thankfully, when I asked three women to come alongside me and edit the stories, they each said, “Yes.” They are Cyndie de Neve, Mary Jenson and Cheri Fuller.
When a mom wrote me after reading the book, I was so pleased. She said, “This book is all about God and His glory. It doesn’t glorify MITI at all, and yet the heart of MITI shines through, offering hope to desperate mothers who need to know that God cares, is powerful, and offers compassionate support for moms, through women who will pray without judging.” What a great joy to see that the vision was truly fulfilled.
Jen: In terms of the nuts and bolts, how were you able to collect these inspirational stories to share with your readers? And, did you make an outline of certain topics that you wanted to explore, or was it simply just finding a unique voice within each one that needed to be heard?
Fern:
We put the word out to our MITI leadership about the project and asked them to share with us a powerful answer to prayer. We gave them guidelines and suggestions of topics that we were interested in. The stories started coming in. Through prayer, my team and I came to consensus and identified the compelling stories that we felt were not uncommon and that mothers would readily identify with. Each story displays God’s glory even though some of the prayers did not turn out as expected.
Jen: The inspirational quotes and prayers peppered throughout the book are truly beautiful. Can you lend some suggestions as to how the reader may go about incorporating them into his or her spiritual journey?
Fern:
There is something about hearing truth from the heart of another saint. I chose quotes that had meant a lot to me over the years. Quotes that encouraged me, made me ponder and sometimes led me to prayer that God would strengthen me with this truth and that He would help me live it. I wanted the reader to have the opportunity to be blessed as I was and still am. I also chose Scriptures that are especially meaningful to me. I wanted a lot of Scripture in the book. There are no greater words than God’s words. It is His “now” speaking voice that pierces the soul, draws it to a greater intimacy with Him. I would suggest memorizing one quote or Scripture a week! When we hide God’s word in our hearts, at the appropriate time in whatever circumstance we may be going through, God will bring these Scriptures and quotations to mind to give us courage.
Jen: I have to admit, each story is utterly amazing in the sense that as a mom, I could totally relate no matter what the circumstances were. The one that left a lasting impression on me was chapter 13 Unlocked: Hope for Moms with Disabled Children by Thalia Henning of California. In what ways did you personally reach out to the contributors?
Fern:
Each story touched my heart. Each one drew me into the hurt and pain of her situation, and her desperateness to believe and her courage to join with others and not give up praying. I was so blessed that each story revealed a faithful, caring God who manifested Himself in precious ways. If the story needed clarification or if emotions needed to be described more clearly, the editors would get back with the story writers and ask appropriate questions to bring about a clearer, more compelling understanding. They were all wonderful to work with, even though at times it was hard for some of them to go back to a dark emotional place, but they did, for the sake of the reader.
Jen: If you had to choose, which story impacted you the most and why?
Fern:
The chapter that filled my eyes with tears each time I read it is was Connie’s Kennemer’s story, chapter 15. Connie and I go way back to 1985. She came to my home to see how a MITI group could pray a whole hour. As a result, God prompted her to start the first elementary MITI in the Poway area. She was a worship leader also and came to lead the worship at our MITI retreats. We traveled together, prayed together, laughed together, cried together, and talked about the MITI vision together. Her story did not turn out all neat and tidy. And yet, by what God taught her about who He is through MITI -- she still sings. She is an inspiration to me.
Jen: How did you personally grow as a mom after the completion of this project?
Fern:
Once again the great realization that God’s plans and purposes will not be thwarted, and the wonderful mystery, the marvel that Almighty God in His Sovereignty has chosen His bride to partner with Him in prayer to accomplish His will on earth. So, now as a grandmother, crying out with other grandmothers for the next generation, I know that my God is an unchanging faithful God. He will save, deliver and lead my grandchildren on paths of righteousness because I have seen the power of God revealed manifested by the prayer of many.
Jen: And, what was the most valuable lesson learned from this experience?
Fern:
That moms are not alone. Our hearts beat the same for our children and grandchildren all over the world. Also, that God did not intend for us to carry our burdens by ourselves. We truly do need each other. There is no better place to be than in the community of praying moms. This book is proof of that.
Jen: How would my readers go about joining (or even starting) a Moms In Touch group?
Fern:
To start or find a local Moms In Touch group to pray for your children and schools, and for resources and information, we have an excellent, user-friendly website: http://www.momsintouch.org./ We also have a number they can call: 1-800-949-MOMS. As our vision is that every school be covered in prayer we are excited to think that after moms/grandmothers read this book they will not wait, but start today. Truly, the time is urgent. As Lamentations 2:19 says, Arise cry out in the night, as the watches of the night being. Pour out your heart like water before the presence of the Lord, lift up your hands to him for the lives of your children, who faint from hunger at the head of every street. Our children need Jesus NOW! We MUST pray.
Jen: Now that this project is completed, what is the next step in your journey?
Fern:
To keep on keeping on. We will not rest until the vision is realized. We will continue to sound the clarion call to “Arise! Cry Out!” through whatever means available as we seek the Lord for His continued direction, wisdom and guidance. We are being very intentional in our strategies to reach out to the moms with young children. She is the next generation of moms that we will hand the baton of this prayer movement to. May the LORD find us in prayer until the day He returns.
Jen: Thank you so much for taking the time out of your busy schedule to stop by and chat with my readers. Your book is the perfect gift for any mom this holiday season. Thanks for sharing your words of wisdom with my readers. God Bless.
Fern:
What a great joy that I can share through this book the goodness of the Lord through the power of praying with others. And that you have given me this opportunity. Thank you so much. May the Lord receive all the glory.
I hope you have enjoyed my interview with Fern Nichols. Please stop by your local library branch or favorite bookstore today and pick up a copy of WHEN MOMS PRAY TOGETHER: True Stories of God’s Power to Transform Your Child. Better yet, how would you like to win one? Okay, be one of the first five readers to e-mail me at jensjewels@gmail.com with the correct answer to the following trivia question. Good luck! (If you would like the Charleston County Public Library to add this title to its collection, call your local branch today and make a Suggestion for Purchase!)
What is the name of the organization Fern started for praying moms?
On November 10th, I will be bringing to you my interview with an extraordinary young autobiographer, Kevin Michael Connolly. You won’t want to miss it.
Until next time…
Jen
November 1, 2009
I have a secret that I must share. I have rekindled an old relationship. As the saying goes…it just happened. My discreet partner is thoughtful, understanding, and at times comforting on a cold, blustery day. When I need a moment of silence on my way to carpool, I have it. When I need a friend to lean on after a long day, I have one. Quite frankly, I never realized just how in tune I have become with my long, lost friend…God.
This month’s Jen’s Jewels Fern Nichols has experienced quite the same epiphany. As a mother, she experienced firsthand the ups and downs of raising children in the crazy world in which we live. So, she turned to a higher power to help her navigate life’s journey. In her latest release, WHEN MOMS PRAY TOGETHER: True Stories of God’s Power to Transform Your Child, she calls upon the help of faithful moms to give encouragement to others facing life’s challenges.
As part of this interview, Tyndale has generously donated five copies for you, my lucky readers, to win. So, don’t forget to look for the trivia question at the end of the column. And as always, thanks for making Jen’s Jewels a part of your reading adventure.
Jen: As the mother of four children as well as a grandmother, you have experienced firsthand the Herculean feat of raising healthy, happy children. So that my readers may have a better understanding of the path you took in becoming an author, please tell us about your educational and professional experience.
Fern:
My mother was an inspiration to me. She took seriously her role of mothering. She was able to be a stay-at-home mom and was very intentional about our physical, mental and spiritual development. She made nutritious meals, made sure we went to school, taught us the Word of God, modeled prayer and faithfully took us to church.
As a result of how she was raising me, I believe God set deep in my heart the importance of the godly influence of a mother. And that’s what I wanted to be. I had no intention of going to college or having a career. I wanted to be a MOM!! But God in His Sovereignty not only opened doors for me to go to college, but to major in the thing I loved most -- children. I earned my degree in education. Both my fiancé, Rle, and I graduated from college together, got married one month later and both taught school in the same district.
In our third year of marriage God blessed us with a baby boy, and I was able to become a stay-at-home mom. God gave me the desires of my heart. But did I ever learn a lot as a new mom! I needed the Lord more than ever. I was in the Word and on my knees seeking direction, wisdom and guidance for this new little life. I was intentional, just like my mom, and from birth began the life-long teaching of the Word, prayer and taking him to church. God blessed us with three more children and my desire to raise “Jesus Lovers” was heightened all the more.
Throughout those years of raising these precious “gifts” God gave us, I was very active in living out my faith. I wanted to serve the One I loved. I had many opportunities to do that through teaching Sunday School, being choir director, playing the organ and piano, and teaching neighborhood Bible studies. My husband and I were called to serve in Campus Crusade for Christ for 15 years. Rle was the coach for Athletes In Action. In my seasons of service, I purposed in my heart that my priorities would be God first, family second and ministry third. Truly my profession was Motherhood!
Jen: Your religious faith has been the cornerstone to the development of your career as an inspirational speaker and advocate for Christianity. What was the driving force that led you to pursue this vocation?
Fern:
There really was no driving force to be an inspirational speaker. As I desired to please the Lord and follow His will for my life, opportunities opened for me to speak at retreats, churches, seminars, workshops. My main topics were always centered on how to be a mature Christian, the blessings of motherhood and prayer.
On one fall day in 1984 as I kissed my two eldest sons goodbye before they left for school, I went back to the kitchen with a very heavy, burdened heart for them. I was truly fearful for their spiritual lives at that public school. So many things loomed in my mind of the incredible battles they would be facing. Would they make the right decisions in tempting situations, would they be able to recognize humanistic teachings, would they choose godly, moral friends? And on and on it went. As I was talking to the Lord about this, I prayed a desperate simple prayer, “Lord, there must be one other mom who will pray with me for our children and the school.” I had experienced the power of corporate prayer and it was time to unite.
The Lord laid upon my heart the name of another mom. I immediately called her and poured out my heart, the burden I felt, and asked if she would take time out of her busy schedule to come to my house and pray. She felt the same way and agreed to come. We thought of a few other moms we could invite. So, that very next week there were five of us in my living room praying a simple four step format of prayer that kept us praying the whole hour. We were serious. The lives of our children were at stake.
Out of one desperate mom’s burden for her boys, God birthed a prayer ministry for children and schools. You truly do not know what God has in mind when on one unassuming day you are in prayer.
Jen: Let’s talk about Moms in Touch International. Please describe for us its core purpose.
Fern: We named our group Moms in Touch -- moms in touch with God, with one another, with our children and the school through prayer. We knew we could not physically follow our children around at school, even though a lot of moms would love to. But, the one thing we did know was that when we prayed, Jesus would be there. We were experiencing so many answers to prayer that we couldn’t help but tell others. The grassroots movement began. Moms were calling me to come to their house to help form a group for their school. Then churches began inviting me to come share. God opened opportunities to share at retreats. The word about this life-changing ministry was spreading.
Jen: How did your vision become a reality? And, what part did Dr. James Dobson (Focus on the Family) play in helping you achieve your goal?
Fern:
God kept increasing my vision. At first it was prayer for my children and the school they attended. And then the vision increased for all the schools to be covered in my area. Then in 1985 God moved our family with Campus Crusade for Christ from British Columbia, Canada, to Poway near San Diego, California. I knew no one. One simple prayer emerged, “Lord, I need one other mom to pray with me.” By the end of the school year, there were 15 moms coming to my home to pray for the high school. In 1988 we had our first MITI retreat. Thirty-five women were at a retreat center together in a fire-side room thanking God for all the answers to prayer we had seen since praying in a MITI group. The Holy Spirit was moving sweetly among us. A prayer emerged, “Lord, we have been changed, our children and the school have been changed, and we now ask that all the schools in the San Diego area be covered in prayer.” The prayer grew even bigger. We then prayed for all of California schools to have a MITI group. Then our faith grew to ask for the whole Northwest. The Holy Spirit moved our prayers across the United States and then around the world. There was silence. Then one mom prayed, “Lord, who can tell the women of the world about Moms in Touch?” There was a pause. “Dobson, that’s who.” “Lord, we ask to be on his program.” I think we were all stunned at first by the request and then there was a joyous agreement.
Three months later, without anyone contacting FOF, LuAnne Crane from FOF called me, asking about MITI. She caught the vision, and said there were a lot of requests that crossed Dr. Dobson’s desk so she couldn’t promise anything.
Did we ever pray! We were so bold that not only did we ask to be on the program, but that God would give us two days, just in case a mom didn’t hear the first day. God answered above and beyond our request. He gave us three days. Twelve other moms joined Dr. Dobson and me in the studio. God knew this message of hope needed to be heard by moms. The result of the program was over 24,000 responses. Needless to say, the ministry has never been the same since that day. We are Moms In Touch International, and we are now in over 130 countries.
Jen: And initially, what affect did it have on your family? Did your children feel any pressure growing up having to live up to other’s high expectations in terms of their behavior? Their mother was (and still is!) a devoted Christian. We all know…kids will be kids no matter who their parents are.
Fern:
My family really didn’t know exactly all what was happening. By God’s grace, I was able to change hats from ministry to home easily. When my children were home I was able to have my focus on them and was involved in all their activities. I remember one time I took a red-eye flight to speak at a MITI retreat so that I wouldn’t miss my son’s football game. They realized the scope of the ministry for the first time when they attended the MITI 10th Anniversary Retreat. There were 750 women who came from many different states. My family was amazed and said, “Mom, I knew you prayed for us, but we didn’t realize what you were doing.” It was a real eye-opener, even for my husband.
Jen: With the creation of this powerful group came your writing of several books. Your latest release, WHEN MOMS PRAY TOGETHER, is a heart-warming collection of stories that would inspire even the non-believer to have faith. Describe for us its metamorphosis.
Fern:
I never set out to be a writer. In fact, I remember in my English class in high school that I had a lot of red marks on my papers. But again, God in His Sovereign plan for my life had an agent from Zondervan contact me to encourage me to tell my story. If it weren’t for Janet Kobobel Grant capturing my “voice” in the book Every Child Needs a Praying Mom, it would not have received the silver medallion award. She was a key piece in writing that book. Connie Kennemer was my co-writer for the gift book Prayers From a Mom’s Heart.
The new book WHEN MOMS PRAY TOGETHER was birthed because of my deep desire to glorify God for His faithfulness to MITI for 25 years. As our 25th anniversary was approaching, I wanted to display His glory through sharing answers to moms’ prayers. I was encouraged by Cheri Fuller to call Larry Weeden and share my vision for the book with him: 25 stories representing answers to prayer over 25 years. I wanted it to be a legacy book that I could give to my grandchildren one day and say, “Honey, the God who answered these prayers is the same God who will answer your prayers today.” This is not a “coffee table” book to just sit on the shelf. I wanted this book to strengthen the faith and prayer life of women all over the world. Larry caught the vision and the project began. Once again I needed the “body” to make this book have the impact that I wanted it to have. Thankfully, when I asked three women to come alongside me and edit the stories, they each said, “Yes.” They are Cyndie de Neve, Mary Jenson and Cheri Fuller.
When a mom wrote me after reading the book, I was so pleased. She said, “This book is all about God and His glory. It doesn’t glorify MITI at all, and yet the heart of MITI shines through, offering hope to desperate mothers who need to know that God cares, is powerful, and offers compassionate support for moms, through women who will pray without judging.” What a great joy to see that the vision was truly fulfilled.
Jen: In terms of the nuts and bolts, how were you able to collect these inspirational stories to share with your readers? And, did you make an outline of certain topics that you wanted to explore, or was it simply just finding a unique voice within each one that needed to be heard?
Fern:
We put the word out to our MITI leadership about the project and asked them to share with us a powerful answer to prayer. We gave them guidelines and suggestions of topics that we were interested in. The stories started coming in. Through prayer, my team and I came to consensus and identified the compelling stories that we felt were not uncommon and that mothers would readily identify with. Each story displays God’s glory even though some of the prayers did not turn out as expected.
Jen: The inspirational quotes and prayers peppered throughout the book are truly beautiful. Can you lend some suggestions as to how the reader may go about incorporating them into his or her spiritual journey?
Fern:
There is something about hearing truth from the heart of another saint. I chose quotes that had meant a lot to me over the years. Quotes that encouraged me, made me ponder and sometimes led me to prayer that God would strengthen me with this truth and that He would help me live it. I wanted the reader to have the opportunity to be blessed as I was and still am. I also chose Scriptures that are especially meaningful to me. I wanted a lot of Scripture in the book. There are no greater words than God’s words. It is His “now” speaking voice that pierces the soul, draws it to a greater intimacy with Him. I would suggest memorizing one quote or Scripture a week! When we hide God’s word in our hearts, at the appropriate time in whatever circumstance we may be going through, God will bring these Scriptures and quotations to mind to give us courage.
Jen: I have to admit, each story is utterly amazing in the sense that as a mom, I could totally relate no matter what the circumstances were. The one that left a lasting impression on me was chapter 13 Unlocked: Hope for Moms with Disabled Children by Thalia Henning of California. In what ways did you personally reach out to the contributors?
Fern:
Each story touched my heart. Each one drew me into the hurt and pain of her situation, and her desperateness to believe and her courage to join with others and not give up praying. I was so blessed that each story revealed a faithful, caring God who manifested Himself in precious ways. If the story needed clarification or if emotions needed to be described more clearly, the editors would get back with the story writers and ask appropriate questions to bring about a clearer, more compelling understanding. They were all wonderful to work with, even though at times it was hard for some of them to go back to a dark emotional place, but they did, for the sake of the reader.
Jen: If you had to choose, which story impacted you the most and why?
Fern:
The chapter that filled my eyes with tears each time I read it is was Connie’s Kennemer’s story, chapter 15. Connie and I go way back to 1985. She came to my home to see how a MITI group could pray a whole hour. As a result, God prompted her to start the first elementary MITI in the Poway area. She was a worship leader also and came to lead the worship at our MITI retreats. We traveled together, prayed together, laughed together, cried together, and talked about the MITI vision together. Her story did not turn out all neat and tidy. And yet, by what God taught her about who He is through MITI -- she still sings. She is an inspiration to me.
Jen: How did you personally grow as a mom after the completion of this project?
Fern:
Once again the great realization that God’s plans and purposes will not be thwarted, and the wonderful mystery, the marvel that Almighty God in His Sovereignty has chosen His bride to partner with Him in prayer to accomplish His will on earth. So, now as a grandmother, crying out with other grandmothers for the next generation, I know that my God is an unchanging faithful God. He will save, deliver and lead my grandchildren on paths of righteousness because I have seen the power of God revealed manifested by the prayer of many.
Jen: And, what was the most valuable lesson learned from this experience?
Fern:
That moms are not alone. Our hearts beat the same for our children and grandchildren all over the world. Also, that God did not intend for us to carry our burdens by ourselves. We truly do need each other. There is no better place to be than in the community of praying moms. This book is proof of that.
Jen: How would my readers go about joining (or even starting) a Moms In Touch group?
Fern:
To start or find a local Moms In Touch group to pray for your children and schools, and for resources and information, we have an excellent, user-friendly website: http://www.momsintouch.org./ We also have a number they can call: 1-800-949-MOMS. As our vision is that every school be covered in prayer we are excited to think that after moms/grandmothers read this book they will not wait, but start today. Truly, the time is urgent. As Lamentations 2:19 says, Arise cry out in the night, as the watches of the night being. Pour out your heart like water before the presence of the Lord, lift up your hands to him for the lives of your children, who faint from hunger at the head of every street. Our children need Jesus NOW! We MUST pray.
Jen: Now that this project is completed, what is the next step in your journey?
Fern:
To keep on keeping on. We will not rest until the vision is realized. We will continue to sound the clarion call to “Arise! Cry Out!” through whatever means available as we seek the Lord for His continued direction, wisdom and guidance. We are being very intentional in our strategies to reach out to the moms with young children. She is the next generation of moms that we will hand the baton of this prayer movement to. May the LORD find us in prayer until the day He returns.
Jen: Thank you so much for taking the time out of your busy schedule to stop by and chat with my readers. Your book is the perfect gift for any mom this holiday season. Thanks for sharing your words of wisdom with my readers. God Bless.
Fern:
What a great joy that I can share through this book the goodness of the Lord through the power of praying with others. And that you have given me this opportunity. Thank you so much. May the Lord receive all the glory.
I hope you have enjoyed my interview with Fern Nichols. Please stop by your local library branch or favorite bookstore today and pick up a copy of WHEN MOMS PRAY TOGETHER: True Stories of God’s Power to Transform Your Child. Better yet, how would you like to win one? Okay, be one of the first five readers to e-mail me at jensjewels@gmail.com with the correct answer to the following trivia question. Good luck! (If you would like the Charleston County Public Library to add this title to its collection, call your local branch today and make a Suggestion for Purchase!)
What is the name of the organization Fern started for praying moms?
On November 10th, I will be bringing to you my interview with an extraordinary young autobiographer, Kevin Michael Connolly. You won’t want to miss it.
Until next time…
Jen
Jen's Bio: When a twist of fate landed Jennifer Vido at the "Reading with Ripa" roundtable discussion with Kelly Ripa and Meg Cabot, she knew that her career as a French teacher would never be the same. A graduate of Vanderbilt University, Jennifer is a member of Romance Writers of America and reviews books for the major publishing houses, such as Random House, Penguin, and Harper Collins. Currently, she is a columnist and reviewer for www.freshfiction.com, where her popular monthly column, Jen's Jewels, also appears. As a national trainer for The Arthritis Foundation's Aquatic and Land Exercise Programs, she is an advocate for those like herself who suffer from arthritis, the nation's #1 cause of disability. In addition, she serves as Vice-chairperson of the Board of Trustees of the Harford County Public Library where she resides with her husband and two sons. She may be reached at jensjewel s@gmail.com and JenniferVido.com.
Friday, October 9, 2009
THAT Big Book Sale Happening NOW!
It's here again!THAT Big Book Sale
October 9 - 11
Friends of the Charleston County Library
Gaillard Auditorium, 77 Calhoun Street
Over 60,000 items, including books, DVDs and CDs,at prices starting at just $1! Bring your own bag.Cash, credit and checks accepted.
Public Sale - Free Admission
Friday, October 9 from 9 a.m. - 7 p.m.
Saturday, October 10 from 9 a.m. - 7 p.m.
Sunday, October 11 from 10 - 3 p.m.
All items half priced on Sunday!
Free Computer Classes in November
We have computer classes for adults and young adults and they're FREE! For more information, please call 559-1945 and ask for the Reference Department. Class space is available for 8 participants per session.
Computer Basics
Monday, November 2 from 6:00–8:00 p.m.
Registration starts 10/19
This class provides a basic introduction to the personal computer and its parts. Learn how to use the mouse and navigate the computer screen. There is time for hands-on practice. No computer experience is necessary.
Word Basics
Tuesday, November 3 from 10:00 a.m.–12 Noon
Registration starts 10/20
Introduction to the basic tools of Microsoft Word. Learn how to enter and format text, change margins and line spacing, and copy and paste text. Saving and printing tips will also be discussed. Prerequisite: Some experience using a mouse will be helpful.
Keyboard Basics
Monday, November 9 from 6:00–8:00 p.m.
Registration starts 10/26
Basic orientation to using the computer keyboard. Learn to be a more efficient keyboarder. General instruction and hands-on practice. No computer experience is necessary.
Excel Basics
Tuesday, November 10 from 10:00 a.m.–12 Noon
Registration starts 10/27
An introduction to spreadsheets using Microsoft Excel. This session provides a basic overview and common uses for spreadsheets. Learn basic Excel functions and build a simple budget spreadsheet. Prerequisite: Word Basics or some experience using MS Word will be helpful.
Files and Folders: File Organization and Management
Monday, November 16 from 6:00–8:00 p.m.
Registration starts 11/2
Learn how to organize your computer files more effectively. Basic concepts include: creating a file or document, creating folders, naming folders and saving document in a folder and deleting files. Prerequisite: Computer Basics will be helpful.
Excel: Beyond the Basics
Tuesday, November 17 from 10:00 a.m.–12 Noon
Registration starts 11/3
A follow-up session to Excel Basics. Learn some additional features of the program, such as sorting and filtering. Learn how to use additional types of formulas. Prerequisite: Excel Basics or some experience using MS Excel will be helpful.
Internet Basics
Monday, November 30 from 6:00–8:00 p.m.
Registration starts 11/16
An introduction to the Internet, focusing on the World Wide Web, using Internet Explorer. Provides an overview of how the Internet is structured and introduces searching on the World Wide Web. Prerequisite: Some experience using a mouse will be helpful.
Computer Basics
Monday, November 2 from 6:00–8:00 p.m.
Registration starts 10/19
This class provides a basic introduction to the personal computer and its parts. Learn how to use the mouse and navigate the computer screen. There is time for hands-on practice. No computer experience is necessary.
Word Basics
Tuesday, November 3 from 10:00 a.m.–12 Noon
Registration starts 10/20
Introduction to the basic tools of Microsoft Word. Learn how to enter and format text, change margins and line spacing, and copy and paste text. Saving and printing tips will also be discussed. Prerequisite: Some experience using a mouse will be helpful.
Keyboard Basics
Monday, November 9 from 6:00–8:00 p.m.
Registration starts 10/26
Basic orientation to using the computer keyboard. Learn to be a more efficient keyboarder. General instruction and hands-on practice. No computer experience is necessary.
Excel Basics
Tuesday, November 10 from 10:00 a.m.–12 Noon
Registration starts 10/27
An introduction to spreadsheets using Microsoft Excel. This session provides a basic overview and common uses for spreadsheets. Learn basic Excel functions and build a simple budget spreadsheet. Prerequisite: Word Basics or some experience using MS Word will be helpful.
Files and Folders: File Organization and Management
Monday, November 16 from 6:00–8:00 p.m.
Registration starts 11/2
Learn how to organize your computer files more effectively. Basic concepts include: creating a file or document, creating folders, naming folders and saving document in a folder and deleting files. Prerequisite: Computer Basics will be helpful.
Excel: Beyond the Basics
Tuesday, November 17 from 10:00 a.m.–12 Noon
Registration starts 11/3
A follow-up session to Excel Basics. Learn some additional features of the program, such as sorting and filtering. Learn how to use additional types of formulas. Prerequisite: Excel Basics or some experience using MS Excel will be helpful.
Internet Basics
Monday, November 30 from 6:00–8:00 p.m.
Registration starts 11/16
An introduction to the Internet, focusing on the World Wide Web, using Internet Explorer. Provides an overview of how the Internet is structured and introduces searching on the World Wide Web. Prerequisite: Some experience using a mouse will be helpful.
Monday, October 5, 2009
Jennifer Vido Interviews Author Julie Buxbaum
Indy Flore
Jen’s Jewels
October 1, 2009
Julie Buxbaum
My friends are my lifeline. Let’s be honest, who else can you commiserate with when you’re having a bad hair day? Husbands just don’t get it. Not to mention, most of them are losing their hair anyway. All kidding aside, the special moments shared with friends are what get us through the most difficult times in life. Without them, we’d be lost.
Imagine then what it would be like if your best friend was murdered and you were left to pick up the pieces of her shattered life. This month’s Jen’s Jewels Julie Buxbaum does just that in her compelling new release AFTER YOU. Masterfully written, she makes the reader stop and think… how well do you really know the ones you love?
As part of this interview The Dial Press, a division of Random House, has generously donated five copies for you, my lucky readers, to win. So, don’t forget to look for the trivia question at the end of the interview. And as always, thanks for making Jen’s Jewels a part of your reading adventure.
Jen: Some of my readers may recognize your name as the author of THE OPPOSITE OF LOVE which has been translated into eighteen languages and opted to film by Twentieth Century Fox. Quite impressive for a first-time novelist! For those readers unfamiliar with your work, please tell us about your educational and professional background prior to becoming a novelist.
Julie: I sort of backed into my career as a novelist. I was a litigator before becoming a writer, but found myself completely unfulfilled. As part of a New Year’s Resolution, I finally got up the courage to quit my job and to start writing that novel I had always talked about. As for educational background, I went to the University of Pennsylvania, where I studied Political Science, Philosophy, and Economics, and then later graduated from Harvard Law School. Sadly, I never took advantage of the opportunity to study literature, which is something I have to confess I deeply regret. That said, I do think law school and practicing law has really informed my writing, both in good ways and in bad.
Jen: In your second release entitled AFTER YOU, you tackle the complexity of friendship, marriage, love, and the healing nature of literature. First of all, how did you arrive at the premise?
Julie: I was really interested in looking at the question of how well we actually know the people we love. I think my choosing the topic had a lot to do with where I was in my life at the time; I had just gotten engaged to my now-husband, and it suddenly occurred to me that a basic tenet of human relationships is the fact that we can never really know what goes on in other people’s heads. AFTER YOU provided the perfect opportunity for me to create a situation where one character—in this case Ellie—gets the unique opportunity to step into the life of her best friend, and see behind that opaque curtain.
Jen: Your main character, Ellie Lerner, is a typical thirty-something woman struggling to balance her marriage and professional career. Yet the unthinkable happens when her best friend Lucy, who is living in London, is murdered. Lucy’s husband Greg and her eight year old daughter Sophie are left behind to share their grief with Ellie. How is Lucy’s death a direct hit to Ellie’s fragility in her own perception of self-worth?
Julie: I think Lucy’s death is direct hit to Ellie’s identity. For better or worse, a lot of women find their self-worth and identity through their various relationships: mother, daughter, wife, sister, and best friend, whatever the case may be. As the novel progresses we learn that Ellie is in fact suffering a double loss, as she has lost a baby two years before the opening of the book. She doesn’t think of herself as a mother, feels her role as a wife is slipping, and now finds that she is completely lost without her best friend.
Jen: As the story unfolds, Ellie chooses to stay in London to help Sophie adjust to the cruel reality that her mother is gone forever. On the flipside, Ellie’s husband Phillip is left behind in the U.S. pining away for his wife. Why does she choose to box her husband out? Would it be fair to say that this decision is a deliberate move to run away from her life?
Julie: Absolutely. At first the reader is led to believe that Ellie is this incredible martyr, giving up everything to help the fragile and adorable Sophie. But as time goes on, the reader begins to suspect that the reality is much more complex than that. No doubt Ellie loves Sophie, and feels a real responsibility as her godmother, but there is also no doubt that Ellie is a woman on the run from her own demons.
Jen: As part of the healing process, Ellie chooses to read to Sophie her favorite childhood book, THE SECRET GARDEN. On a personal level, what significance does it have in your life?
Julie: THE SECRET GARDEN is by far my favorite book of all time. I must have read it at least two hundred times at this point. It’s the one book I turn to purely for therapeutic reasons. When I’m going through a rough time, its exploration of redemption and self-healing and magic always manages to restore me. In AFTER YOU, the book serves as a literary vehicle—Ellie and Sophie’s story very much mirrors the experiences of Mary in THE SECRET GARDEN—but it was also a great excuse to give readers the opportunity to revisit that great book.
Jen: In terms of the characters, what particular aspect of the book becomes the common bond that links these two wounded souls, Ellie and Sophie, together?
Julie: I think Ellie and Sophie both relate to Mary, the main character of THE SECRET GARDEN. She’s lost in very much way the two of them are. The book opens with Mary’s orphaning, and suddenly she feels unmoored and without a single friend in the world. I think this essential loneliness is something we all experience and some point or another.
Jen: Sadly, Ellie comes to learn that her best friend Lucy was not the person she thought her to be. Isn’t it so true that oftentimes, we put our dearest friends up on a pedestal only choosing to see their strengths and turning a blind eye to their faults? How was Lucy’s death an unforeseen opportunity for Ellie to take a step back and evaluate the authenticity of her personal relationships?
Julie: Ellie is given this extreme opportunity to actually get to know the deepest secrets (and insecurities too) of her closest friend. Although it is frightening to not be able to ever truly know those we love, I sometimes wonder if this is a blessing. Maybe it’s better to turn that blind eye as you say, or to put it more positively to allow for that added bit of mystery. We don’t like to be reminded that we all are, at the end of the day, flawed human beings. That being said, I don’t think Ellie’s relationship with Lucy was any less authentic despite Lucy’s secrets.
Jen: Tacking onto the last question, what was the most life-changing discovery she was forced to confront?
Julie: By seeing behind Lucy’s curtain, I think Ellie is forced to confront her own demons as well, and to own up to her own fears and inadequacies.
Jen: Without a doubt, Lucy’s husband Greg mourns not only the loss of his wife, but also the absence of his daughter’s mother. Why does he welcome Ellie into his home? Is she just a buffer due to his lack of parental know-how, or does he see her as an extension of Lucy?
Julie: What a good question. I don’t think he necessarily sees Ellie as an extension of Lucy; I think he is simply a man in over his head. He recognizes that he needs all the help he can get.
Jen: The subplot of Ellie’s parents and their marital woes lends to the issue of lack of stability in her core familial unit. What vulnerabilities are commonplace in all of their lives? Who is the strongest family member and why?
Julie: Certainly, Ellie has inherited the running gene from her mother. As for who is the strongest family member, I don’t know. They are each strong in their unique ways. It seems to me all families are their own bizarrely balanced ecosystems.
Jen: Without giving too much away, how does Ellie finally come to terms with the woman she has become?
Julie: This is a question that haunted me throughout the writing of AFTER YOU: what happens when we meet our adult selves and they don’t necessarily match our expectations. For Ellie, she no doubt experiences a sort of reckoning by the end of the novel, and a desire to do better, but whether she comes to fully accept the woman she has become is something I don’t really know. I am not sure how any of us ever gets there.
Jen: Let’s talk about your promotional plans. Do you have a website? Will there be a Reading Group Guide available for book clubs? Do you participate in author phone chats? And if so, how would my readers go about scheduling one?
Julie: I do have a website: http://www.juliebuxbaum.com/ so please come visit. You can download a Reading Group Guide for book clubs for both AFTER YOU and THE OPPOSITE OF LOVE. And I love to do author phone chats with reading groups! It’s such a fun way to connect directly with readers. I can be contacted via a form on my website or just by clicking the contact me link on the site—if you are in a book club, email me and we’ll set up a time to chat!
Jen: Are you currently at work on your next novel? And if so, what can you share with us?
Julie: I am at work on my next novel, but I am way too superstitious to talk about it this early. I always feel like discussing a work, particularly when it’s still in its infancy, can somehow jinx it. Completely irrational, I know.
Jen: Thank you so much for taking time out of your busy schedule to chat with my readers. I absolutely loved AFTER YOU. What a fabulous read! Best of luck with the book tour! And, please stop by again soon.
Julie: Thank you so much for having me!
I hope you have enjoyed my interview with Julie Buxbaum. Please stop by your favorite bookstore or local library branch and pick up a copy of AFTER YOU today. Better yet, how would you like to win one?
Be one of the first five readers to e-mail me at jensjewels@gmail.com with the correct answer to the following trivia question and you’ll win!
Name the title of Julie’s first book.
Later this month, I will be bringing to you my interview with Fern Nichols, founder of Moms in Touch International. You won’t want to miss it.
Until next time…Jen
October 1, 2009
Julie Buxbaum
My friends are my lifeline. Let’s be honest, who else can you commiserate with when you’re having a bad hair day? Husbands just don’t get it. Not to mention, most of them are losing their hair anyway. All kidding aside, the special moments shared with friends are what get us through the most difficult times in life. Without them, we’d be lost.
Imagine then what it would be like if your best friend was murdered and you were left to pick up the pieces of her shattered life. This month’s Jen’s Jewels Julie Buxbaum does just that in her compelling new release AFTER YOU. Masterfully written, she makes the reader stop and think… how well do you really know the ones you love?
As part of this interview The Dial Press, a division of Random House, has generously donated five copies for you, my lucky readers, to win. So, don’t forget to look for the trivia question at the end of the interview. And as always, thanks for making Jen’s Jewels a part of your reading adventure.
Jen: Some of my readers may recognize your name as the author of THE OPPOSITE OF LOVE which has been translated into eighteen languages and opted to film by Twentieth Century Fox. Quite impressive for a first-time novelist! For those readers unfamiliar with your work, please tell us about your educational and professional background prior to becoming a novelist.
Julie: I sort of backed into my career as a novelist. I was a litigator before becoming a writer, but found myself completely unfulfilled. As part of a New Year’s Resolution, I finally got up the courage to quit my job and to start writing that novel I had always talked about. As for educational background, I went to the University of Pennsylvania, where I studied Political Science, Philosophy, and Economics, and then later graduated from Harvard Law School. Sadly, I never took advantage of the opportunity to study literature, which is something I have to confess I deeply regret. That said, I do think law school and practicing law has really informed my writing, both in good ways and in bad.
Jen: In your second release entitled AFTER YOU, you tackle the complexity of friendship, marriage, love, and the healing nature of literature. First of all, how did you arrive at the premise?
Julie: I was really interested in looking at the question of how well we actually know the people we love. I think my choosing the topic had a lot to do with where I was in my life at the time; I had just gotten engaged to my now-husband, and it suddenly occurred to me that a basic tenet of human relationships is the fact that we can never really know what goes on in other people’s heads. AFTER YOU provided the perfect opportunity for me to create a situation where one character—in this case Ellie—gets the unique opportunity to step into the life of her best friend, and see behind that opaque curtain.
Jen: Your main character, Ellie Lerner, is a typical thirty-something woman struggling to balance her marriage and professional career. Yet the unthinkable happens when her best friend Lucy, who is living in London, is murdered. Lucy’s husband Greg and her eight year old daughter Sophie are left behind to share their grief with Ellie. How is Lucy’s death a direct hit to Ellie’s fragility in her own perception of self-worth?
Julie: I think Lucy’s death is direct hit to Ellie’s identity. For better or worse, a lot of women find their self-worth and identity through their various relationships: mother, daughter, wife, sister, and best friend, whatever the case may be. As the novel progresses we learn that Ellie is in fact suffering a double loss, as she has lost a baby two years before the opening of the book. She doesn’t think of herself as a mother, feels her role as a wife is slipping, and now finds that she is completely lost without her best friend.
Jen: As the story unfolds, Ellie chooses to stay in London to help Sophie adjust to the cruel reality that her mother is gone forever. On the flipside, Ellie’s husband Phillip is left behind in the U.S. pining away for his wife. Why does she choose to box her husband out? Would it be fair to say that this decision is a deliberate move to run away from her life?
Julie: Absolutely. At first the reader is led to believe that Ellie is this incredible martyr, giving up everything to help the fragile and adorable Sophie. But as time goes on, the reader begins to suspect that the reality is much more complex than that. No doubt Ellie loves Sophie, and feels a real responsibility as her godmother, but there is also no doubt that Ellie is a woman on the run from her own demons.
Jen: As part of the healing process, Ellie chooses to read to Sophie her favorite childhood book, THE SECRET GARDEN. On a personal level, what significance does it have in your life?
Julie: THE SECRET GARDEN is by far my favorite book of all time. I must have read it at least two hundred times at this point. It’s the one book I turn to purely for therapeutic reasons. When I’m going through a rough time, its exploration of redemption and self-healing and magic always manages to restore me. In AFTER YOU, the book serves as a literary vehicle—Ellie and Sophie’s story very much mirrors the experiences of Mary in THE SECRET GARDEN—but it was also a great excuse to give readers the opportunity to revisit that great book.
Jen: In terms of the characters, what particular aspect of the book becomes the common bond that links these two wounded souls, Ellie and Sophie, together?
Julie: I think Ellie and Sophie both relate to Mary, the main character of THE SECRET GARDEN. She’s lost in very much way the two of them are. The book opens with Mary’s orphaning, and suddenly she feels unmoored and without a single friend in the world. I think this essential loneliness is something we all experience and some point or another.
Jen: Sadly, Ellie comes to learn that her best friend Lucy was not the person she thought her to be. Isn’t it so true that oftentimes, we put our dearest friends up on a pedestal only choosing to see their strengths and turning a blind eye to their faults? How was Lucy’s death an unforeseen opportunity for Ellie to take a step back and evaluate the authenticity of her personal relationships?
Julie: Ellie is given this extreme opportunity to actually get to know the deepest secrets (and insecurities too) of her closest friend. Although it is frightening to not be able to ever truly know those we love, I sometimes wonder if this is a blessing. Maybe it’s better to turn that blind eye as you say, or to put it more positively to allow for that added bit of mystery. We don’t like to be reminded that we all are, at the end of the day, flawed human beings. That being said, I don’t think Ellie’s relationship with Lucy was any less authentic despite Lucy’s secrets.
Jen: Tacking onto the last question, what was the most life-changing discovery she was forced to confront?
Julie: By seeing behind Lucy’s curtain, I think Ellie is forced to confront her own demons as well, and to own up to her own fears and inadequacies.
Jen: Without a doubt, Lucy’s husband Greg mourns not only the loss of his wife, but also the absence of his daughter’s mother. Why does he welcome Ellie into his home? Is she just a buffer due to his lack of parental know-how, or does he see her as an extension of Lucy?
Julie: What a good question. I don’t think he necessarily sees Ellie as an extension of Lucy; I think he is simply a man in over his head. He recognizes that he needs all the help he can get.
Jen: The subplot of Ellie’s parents and their marital woes lends to the issue of lack of stability in her core familial unit. What vulnerabilities are commonplace in all of their lives? Who is the strongest family member and why?
Julie: Certainly, Ellie has inherited the running gene from her mother. As for who is the strongest family member, I don’t know. They are each strong in their unique ways. It seems to me all families are their own bizarrely balanced ecosystems.
Jen: Without giving too much away, how does Ellie finally come to terms with the woman she has become?
Julie: This is a question that haunted me throughout the writing of AFTER YOU: what happens when we meet our adult selves and they don’t necessarily match our expectations. For Ellie, she no doubt experiences a sort of reckoning by the end of the novel, and a desire to do better, but whether she comes to fully accept the woman she has become is something I don’t really know. I am not sure how any of us ever gets there.
Jen: Let’s talk about your promotional plans. Do you have a website? Will there be a Reading Group Guide available for book clubs? Do you participate in author phone chats? And if so, how would my readers go about scheduling one?
Julie: I do have a website: http://www.juliebuxbaum.com/ so please come visit. You can download a Reading Group Guide for book clubs for both AFTER YOU and THE OPPOSITE OF LOVE. And I love to do author phone chats with reading groups! It’s such a fun way to connect directly with readers. I can be contacted via a form on my website or just by clicking the contact me link on the site—if you are in a book club, email me and we’ll set up a time to chat!
Jen: Are you currently at work on your next novel? And if so, what can you share with us?
Julie: I am at work on my next novel, but I am way too superstitious to talk about it this early. I always feel like discussing a work, particularly when it’s still in its infancy, can somehow jinx it. Completely irrational, I know.
Jen: Thank you so much for taking time out of your busy schedule to chat with my readers. I absolutely loved AFTER YOU. What a fabulous read! Best of luck with the book tour! And, please stop by again soon.
Julie: Thank you so much for having me!
I hope you have enjoyed my interview with Julie Buxbaum. Please stop by your favorite bookstore or local library branch and pick up a copy of AFTER YOU today. Better yet, how would you like to win one?
Be one of the first five readers to e-mail me at jensjewels@gmail.com with the correct answer to the following trivia question and you’ll win!
Name the title of Julie’s first book.
Later this month, I will be bringing to you my interview with Fern Nichols, founder of Moms in Touch International. You won’t want to miss it.
Until next time…Jen
Jen's Bio: When a twist of fate landed Jennifer Vido at the "Reading with Ripa" roundtable discussion with Kelly Ripa and Meg Cabot, she knew that her career as a French teacher would never be the same. A graduate of Vanderbilt University, Jennifer is a member of Romance Writers of America and reviews books for the major publishing houses, such as Random House, Penguin, and Harper Collins. Currently, she is a columnist and reviewer for www.freshfiction.com, where her popular monthly column, Jen's Jewels, also appears. As a national trainer for The Arthritis Foundation's Aquatic and Land Exercise Programs, she is an advocate for those like herself who suffer from arthritis, the nation's #1 cause of disability. In addition, she serves as Vice-chairperson of the Board of Trustees of the Harford County Public Library where she resides with her husband and two sons. She may be reached at jensjewel s@gmail.com and JenniferVido.com.
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